Tuesday, June 3, 2014

some things {just} never change

so to catch you up on the latest here in our corner of life:
Sam is now done with school, moved out to the town 30miles from us into a cool little basement suite and has been working for a local farmer there for about 2 months. 
He seems to really enjoy his job (working with both cattle and grain -- the grain seeding and all that is included in that is a new adventure for him). 
On this past Friday, Dennis and I headed into Brandon for a quick trip to pick up some farming supplies and received a phone call from Sam that should he go to the dentist to look at the tooth that the calf broke when it kicked him in the jaw!
We got things sorted and got him to the dentist before he left for the weekend and then off to the hospital to check on concussion risk and other issues that may have come from it. He was checked over by the nurse and sent for X-rays (in case of a fracture) then we were sent back to the doctor to have him fully checked out.
I went in the office with Sam for a few reasons (one of them being that we are not fond of this doctor or the bedside manner but in our small town {and saddly even neighbouring towns} there is no choice of doctors -- you hav to use the one they 'gave you' basically)but mostly for moral support as he is not used to having to deal with these medical issues on his own AND lets not forget ... well... he forgets!
So I was there to help him out.
Firstly, she didnt even look at his X-rays, stating that she could 'see he had no fractures', then when he told her about  his BI and seizures and whatnot, she 'listened' (using that word loosely here) because as it turns my concerns were totally founded -- but that comes later. She said he had no concussion but it was good for him to come home with me so we could be there if 'anything happens' (now what would happen if there were no concussion or fractures?!) Take it easy this weekend and no work til Monday...
NO CONCUSSION--- yet he had blurry vision and a headache... ok... maybe I am over protective.... but really!?
NO FRACTURE -- from a glancing look and a bit of poking with her fingers... ok no screaming from Sam either... so thats good.

Sam came home with us, slept crappy, ate very little and looked like hell on Saturday morning. Swollen face, circles under his eyes and tired. But he got thru the day and did a bit of tinkering, admittedly he went for a ride on the dirt bike (which I was against) and then headed home to meet some friend for a movie intown (but no driving). Woke up feeling a bit rough on Sunday but felt better than Saturday -- so he must be on the mend. Then up on Monday morning for work...
dizziness, nausea, blurry vision and a general feeling of crap. NO going to work, calls me and i tell him to get to the doctor again and make sure she looks at the xray  AND listens to you!
Luckily h is able to get in in the afternoon and this time she listens ... i think.
Her diagnosis is that Sam was having a delayed reaction to Fridays activities (concussion!?!?!) and he probably has an infection -- so med's so that it keeps a fever away and risk of seizures -- and no work for another 2 days! (updated count of days off now 4! Four days with no pay and Sam is stressing a bit from it...)
Some things just never change! I thought we were done with doctors and them not listening to us about Sam and his BI. Doctors need to start listening to the caregivers about things - no matter how small or 'insignificant' they think the information is! We usually know a lot more about BI's, symptoms, new treatments, expectations... you name it we usually know all about it! JUST LISTEN DAMN IT and stop making us feel small and crazy! We 'specialize' in this, they usually don't.

**sigh** Ok Rant is over: Sam is starting to feel better and hopefully back to work tomorrow.

1 comment:

Gin G said...

I so agree. Luckily MOST of our doctors have learned that. Sorry you all had to go through this. Hoping Sam feels better. I fear this is a lifelong journey we are on Jodi.